Morning, fellow readers! Wishing all of you a happy Labour Day weekend. It has been a while since I have blogged a normal, contemplative post (yes, that’s me admitting poetry is special), and I figured perhaps it’s time to step into this rarity seeing that I do have a lot to say. Making the effort to do so is where I fall short, and that’s my yardstick measure of “is it worth it”, “does this need to be said”, or “would people actually care to know”.
This blog post is so full of love, light, energy and positivity. It’s something I tell my friends too. Don’t be in a relationship because you need to be in one! It also reminds me of a conversation I recently had with my mum. We were talking about building relationships and socializing. And I told her despite being generally friendly with most people, I like connecting with those who give off good vibes and energy. I can’t help but sense the energy of a person and be drawn to those who are full of life and compassion. And no that does not mean being chirpy 24/7. I will keep it short and let the post below weave its magic. Take some time out to read.
I wanted to start this post by letting you know of something important. When I speak of my past, when I reveal something a bit more personal, for instance, when I mention my ex or anyone who affected me like my adoptive mother, I do not want you to think that I’m venting. This is […]
Marriage of the sky and horizon
is a harmonious junction of the
sublime – perfect recipe to stimulate
a precocious mind. Once I wondered,
if through imagination alone could I
reach for the clouds, and test for myself
whether they are real or just an illusion
obstructing the limitless universe.
© Fiza Arshad, 2016 All rights reserved.
Seasoned WordPress users will know a lot of changes have been introduced, and some have even been scrapped out, over the years . One such example for the former is the “inspire me!” button that used to be in the right-hand corner of the new post page template. Did it serve its function? Offer me zen-like lessons? No, it didn’t, most of the time. But I still miss clicking it for the sake of clicking, hoping to find a different prompt out of the usual ones.
Some of the generic posts included the weathered cupboard; the adrenaline-causing incident and my response to it. Other prompts produced pieces like Holocaust, and greed. And then there were those that encouraged me to step out of comfort zone. I hoped that I would at some point, but WordPress had other plans. Strangely like life, is it not?
Most of us have plans for where we would like our life to end up. Stable job and relationships, progressive career, exciting vacations- the list goes on. Usually we don’t end up exactly where we had imagined. Maybe you landed up in a completely different career. Or didn’t get to have as many adventurous trips. It matters, and it really hurts. Let’s not pretend it is for the good. You can’t possibly know that! And you never will if you don’t let yourself.
Progress doesn’t crop up out of thin air. If you’re lucky, it might knock on your door. When that happens, open the blessed door. And if the success doesn’t tap (yes, progress is equal to success), go find it and make it work. Don’t be shy of coming off as a go-getter. Be Assertive. You will never walk away feeling regretful or unsatisfied.
It isn’t easy for some of the personality, including myself. But I am actively working on it, confident that I will reach my goal. So can you.
Until then, I will continue to miss WordPress changes even if I didn’t need them entirely.
Sometimes the heart sings to be heard
among the twittering birds, dancing whales,
deer, humans and so I become
a Messiah riding the breeze that tickled
my hair as we traipsed through the sand
our feet sifting the grains of time.
when we were kids we hung back on the porch
watching, always the watching
and now we have become participants
for spectators that line the benches
as the Blue Jays miss their goal again.
© Copyright 2015
Is language really a barrier? Many couples around the world fall in love with each other despite non-fluency in their partner’s native language. Or despite an absence of a common fluent form of communication. They are able to communicate with each other and reach an understanding, which allows their relationship to persevere through all of the bends and curves of life. Yet, there are those who do not survive the turbulence and give up rowing mid-way. Is it because the romantic connection fizzles out? Or could it be that the persistent unease and misunderstanding that stems from difference in languages becomes more evident?
Searching “couples with language barriers” on google gives a variety of search options, including scholarly articles. Most of non-scholarly articles acknowledge that language as a barrier, and all of the resulting complications, such as not being able to share feelings. At the same time, couples are also advised to focus on the affection and be mature. Is this not a factor in the dissolution of some relationships, as well?
Things didn’t work out
It’s not you, it’s me
You’re not the one for me
Then why are relationships with a “language barrier” any different? Could it be that it is a concrete problem that could take the blame? Surprisingly, one of the articles exploited the “surprising advantage of dating someone you can’t understand“. A lack of communication was considered a protective factor from getting too clingy or sharing too much at the start of a relationship. Be comfortable with the silence seemed to be the take home message. In this case, language takes the blame again.
Why does language become a perpetual target? What is so fascinating about it? Even the brain thinks differently depending on the language we are thinking in.
Whatever it may be, or more accurately, however many things it may be, language is not a barrier that would stop different cultures from interacting. Are we not able to love? Does it really affect our interactive capabilities? The basic make-up of emotions and innate expressions remain the same across different languages.
© Copyright 2015